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This memorial website was created in the memory of our precious son, Zackery John Tomlinson who was born at Camp Lejeune, North Carolina on August 02, 1999 and went to live with Jesus on   July 16, 2006 at the age of 6.  He was almost 7.  He will live in our hearts forever!

Zack loved the outdoors and school.  He loved to swing, ride his bike, pick up rocks, and climb on the swing set or anything that he could climb.  He climbed trees, he climbed the swingset pole at school.  He loved monkey bars and playgrounds.  Zack was always smiling, even when he was being mischievious.  He had a zest for life and lived it at 100 miles per hour.  He loved Sunday School and church.  He especially loved Jesus!  He loved his brother and is waiting for him in Heaven.  We miss Zack each and every day.  We love him with all our hearts and souls.  We will be reunited with him in Heaven.

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MY GRIEF WISH LIST

Author Unknown

If you have been through grief you will relate to this. If you are going through it you will relate. If you have never been through this type of grief, keep this handy…it may help you one day.


I wish you would not be afraid to speak my loved one’s name. They lived and were important and I need to hear their name.

If I cry or get emotional if we talk about my loved one, I wish you knew that it isn’t because you have hurt me: the fact they have died has caused my tears. You have allowed me to cry and I thank you. Crying and emotional outbursts are healing.

I wish you wouldn’t let my loved one die again by removing from your home his pictures, artwork or other remembrances.

I will have emotional highs and lows, up and down. I wish you wouldn’t think that if I have a good day my grief is all over, or that if I have a bad day, I need psychiatric counseling.

I wish you knew that the death of a child is different from other losses and must be viewed separately. It is the ultimate tragedy and I wish you wouldn’t compare it to your loss of a parent, a spouse or a pet.


Being a bereaved person is not contagious, so I wish you wouldn’t stay away from me.

I wish you knew all the crazy grief reactions that I am having are in fact very normal. Depression, anger, frustration and hopelessness and the questioning of values and beliefs are to be expected following a death.

I wish you wouldn’t expect my grief to be over in six months. The first few years are going to be exceedingly traumatic for us. As with alcoholics I will never be ‘cured’ or a ‘formerly bereaved’, but forever a ‘recovering’ from my bereavement.

I wish you understood the physical reaction to grief. I may gain weight or lose weight, sleep all the time or not at all, develop a lot of illness and be accident prone, all of which are related to my grief.

Our loved one’s birthday, the anniversary of his death and the holidays are terrible times for us. I wish you could tell me that you are thinking about them on these days and if we get quiet and withdrawn, just know that we are thinking about them and don’t try to coerce us into being cheerful.

I wish you wouldn’t offer to take me out for a drink, or to a party. This is just a temporary crutch and the only way I can get through this grief is to experience it. I have to hurt before I can heal.

I wish you understood that grief changes people. I am not the same person I was before my loved one died and I never will be that person again. If you keep waiting for me to get back to ‘my old self’, you will stay frustrated. I am a new creature with new thoughts, dreams, aspirations, values and beliefs.

Please try to get to know the new me: maybe you will still like me.

                                          Safely Home

I am now  at home in heaven;

All's so happy, all so bright!

There is perfect joy and beauty

In this everlasting light.

All the pain and grief are over,

Every restless tossing past;

I am now at peace forever,

Safely home in heaven at last.

Did you wonder I so calmly

Trod the Valley of Shade?

Oh! but Jesus' love illumined

Every dark and fearful glade.

And He came Himself to meet me

In that way so hard to tread;

And with Jesus' arm to lean on,

Could I have on doubt or dread?

Then you must not grieve so sorely,

For I love you dearly still;

Try to look beyond earth's shadows,

Pray to trust our Father's will.

There is work still waiting for you,

So you must not idle stand;

Do your work while life remaineth

You shall rest in Jesus' land.

When that work is all completed

He will gently call you home;

Oh, the rapture of the meeting!

Oh, the joy to see you come!

Precious in the sight of the Lord is the death of His Saints.  Psalm 116:15

And so shall we ever be with the Lord.  1 Thessalonians 4:17

 

A LETTER FROM HEAVEN

by Patricia A. Gertz

Queenstown, Maryland

Dear Mom, I just want to say I'm okay

I know you are sad because I went away.

One day we will be together again,

Then you and I will have our "best friend."

For yesterdays are forever gone,

And each momeny you must carry on.

Look to today with a peaceful heart,

Then someday soon we will never part.

In every life there is to be

A time of heartache, grief and glee.

Days of laughter, days of tears,

Days and nights of joy and fears.

I woke up to hearing an angel sing

And I knew in my heart that a bell would ring.

That voice I've heard so many times before,

Now, I will hear it more and more.

Then Mom -  Mom said, "Michael, I am here!"

Now we are together in God's care.

You'll always be in my heart to stay

So, "Mom," don't look back to yesterday.

A LITTLE PIECE OF US IN HEAVEN

By Pam Bortner

Thomasville, PA

There is a little piece of us in Heaven,

Part of us has already made it there.

Daddy's nose, Daddy's cheeks, Daddy's feet,

My hands. Does he have curly hair?

Our best parts are already in Heaven,

For he was beautiful.

You see, it is our son who is in Heaven.

He had a short, but special, life here on earth,

But God chose to have a little piece of us

Up in Heaven with Him.

"Please take care of him, God."

We know you will do all the things that his parents cannot do.

We know you are holding him.

"God, please hold us, too!"

When Tomorrow Starts Without Me

When tomorrow starts without me and I'm not there to see
If the sun should rise and find your eyes all filled with tears for me.
I wish so much you wouldn't cry the way you did today.
While thinking of the many things we didn't get to say.
I know how much you love me, as much as I love you,
And each time that you think of me, I know you'll miss me too.
But when tomorrow starts without me, please try to understand
That an angel came and called my name and took me by the hand.
And said my place was ready in Heaven far above.
And that I'd have to leave behind all those I dearly love.
But when I waked through Heaven's gates I felt so much at home.
When God looked down and smiled at me from His great golden throne.
He said, "This is eternity and all I've promised you today for life on earth is past but here it starts anew.
I promise no tomorrow for today will always last,
And since each day's the same way, there's no longing for the past."
So when tomorrow starts without me, don't think we're far apart,
For every time you think of me, I'm right here in your heart.
Author Unknown

I DON'T KNOW WHY...
I'LL NEVER KNOW WHY...
I DON'T HAVE TO KNOW WHY..
I DON'T LIKE IT..
I DON'T HAVE TO L IKE IT..

WHAT I DO HAVE TO DO IS MAKE A CHOICE ABOUT MY LIVING.
WHAT I DO HAVE TO DO IS ACCEPT IT AND GO ON LIVING.
THE CHOICE IS MINE.

I CAN GO ON LIVING, VALUING EVERY MOMENT IN A WAY I NEVER DID BEFORE.
OR I CAN BE DESTROYED BY IT AND, IN TURN, DESTROY OTHERS.
I THOUGHT I WAS IMMORTAL, THAT MY CHILDREN AND FAMILY WERE ALSO.
THAT TRAGEDY HAPPENED ONLY TO OTHERS....
BUT I KNOW NOW THAT LIFE IS TENUOUS AND VALUABLE.

AND I CHOOSE TO GO ON LIVING, MAKING THE MOST OF THE TIME I HAVE. 
AND VALUING MY FAMILY AND FRIENDS IN A WAY I NEVER EXPERIENCED BEFORE.
                                                               --IRIS BOLTON--



Hello God, 
I called tonight
To talk a little while
I need a friend who'll listen
To my anxiety and trial.
You see, I can't quite make it
Through a day just on my own...
I need your love to guide me,
So I'll never feel alone.
I want to ask you please to keep
My family safe and sound.
Come and fill our lives with confidence
For whatever fate they're bound.
Give me faith, Dear God, to face
Each hour throughout the day,
And not to worry over things
I can't change in any way.
I thank you God for being home
And listening to my call,
For giving me such good advice
When I stumble and fall.
Your number, God, is the only one
That answers every time.
I never get a busy signal,
Never had to pay a dime.
So thank you, God, for listening
To my troubles and my sorrow.
Good night, God, I love you too,
And I'll call again tomorrow!

                                       - Author Unknown -


Tributes and Condolences
Zack and a beautiful poem made by a wonderful friend at church   / Mommy
I will always love you   / Jacob Tomlinson (Brother)
Zack i miss you a lot, you will be 17 this year it has been to long since i have last seen you. i wish i would of been a better brother to you when we were growing up but you still looked up to me and loved me with everything that you were even when ...  Continue >>
Missing you!   / David (Father)
Zack it has been 9 years and i still hurt so much. I closed my heart that day to all, to include God. That was a mistake that almost cost me your mommy. I am sorry, Zack. I have since gotten help and surrendered to God. They tell me in counseling tha...  Continue >>
Miss you so much   / Daddy (Father)
Zack,
    It has been 8 years since you were called home. I can not even explain the hurt that has been here with us since that day in July 2006. I think of you with every breath I take. I am still angry with God, but he has not l...  Continue >>
family of god   / Delores Newsome (family friend )
the tomlinsons  are wonderful people i know their hearts achebut yet they take time to console others .we that believe in jesus are all in the family of god and this sweet and gentle family certainly are .mourning  and grief never...  Continue >>
Happy Birthday in Heaven  / Mommy     Read >>
MISSING YOU  / David (Father)    Read >>
Merry Christmas, Bubba  / Daddy     Read >>
It just doesn't make sense  / Mommy     Read >>
why? / Mommy     Read >>
Memories / Mommy     Read >>
I never met you but I 'know' you  / Dallas Hoskins (friend of his Mommy and Daddy )    Read >>
Christmas poem  / Mommy     Read >>
Tribute to Zack and other children  / Mommy     Read >>
Happy 9th Birthday Zack  / Mommy, Daddy, Jacob     Read >>
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His legacy
Remembering Zack at Christmas and always  
Something Special  
http://www.onetruemedia.com/shared?p=37f22ee2fda0401ed1656c&skin_id=801&utm_source=otm&utm_medium=text_url

Something special my sister made in honor of Zack.
The Heart  
This came from an email I received.  It made me cry because it was of comfort to me.

"Tomorrow morning," the surgeon began,"I'll open up your heart...""You'll find Jesus there," the boy interrupted. the surgeon looked up, annoyed "I'll cut your heart open," he continued,to see how much damage has beendone...""but when you open up my heart, you'll find Jesus in there," said the boy.The surgeon looked to the parents, who sat quietly. "When I see how much damage has been done, I'll sew your heart and chest back up, and I'll plan what to do next.""But you'll find Jesus in my heart. The Bible says He lives there. The hymns all say Helives there. You'll find Him in my heart."The surgeon had had enough. "I'll tell you what I'll find in your heart.I'll find damaged muscle, low blood supply, and weakened vessels.And I'll find out if I can make you well.""You'll find Jesus there too. He lives there."The surgeon left.The surgeon sat in his office, recording his notes from the surgery,"...damaged aorta, damaged pulmonary vein, widespread muscledegeneration.No hope for transplant, no hope for cure. Therapy:painkillers and bed rest. Prognosis:here he paused, "death within one year."He stopped the recorder, but there was more to be said. "Why?" he asked aloud."Why did You do this? You've put him here; You've put him in this pain; and You've cursed him to an early death. Why?"The Lord answered and said, "The boy,my lamb, was not meant for your flock for long, for he is a part of My flock, and will forever be. Here, in My flock, he will feel no pain, and will be comforted as you can not imagine.His parents will one day join him here,and they will know peace, and My flock will continue to grow."The surgeon's tears were hot, but his anger was hotter. "You created that boy, and You created that heart. He'll be dead in months. Why? "The Lord answered, "The boy, My lamb,shall return to My flock, for He has done his duty: I did not put My lamb with your flock to lose him, but to retrieve another lost lamb. "The surgeon wept... The surgeon sat
beside the boy's bed; the boy's
parents sat across from him. The boy awoke and whispered, "Did you cut open my heart?"

"Yes," said the surgeon.
"What did you find?" asked the boy.

"I found Jesus there," said
the surgeon.

Author Unknown - Celebrate Jesus in 2007

If you aren't ashamed to do this,
please follow the directions
listed below:

Jesus said, "If you are ashamed of me,
I will be ashamed of you before
my Father."
I Am Not Ashamed.
Pass this on only if
you mean it. "Yes, I do Love God. He is my source of existence and
Savior. He keeps me functioning each
and everyday Without Him, I will be
nothing. Without him, I am nothing,
but with Him I can do all things through
Christ that strengthens me."
(Phil 4:13)

This is the simplest test. If you Love
God, and are not ashamed of all the
marvelous things he has done for you.
PLEASE WATCH THIS VIDEO  

If you can't get to it by clicking on it, just copy it to your web browser.  Zack would want you to watch this video.  Please don't skip over this. 


http://www.godtube.com/view_video.php?viewkey=7e18e50b58eb7e0c6ccb

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Zack graduated from kindergarten!
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